episodes
Episode 98: Parts Work (Part 1) w/Gerry Crete
This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Gerry Crete, a marriage and family counselor to discuss his work on internal family systems, or parts work. Parts work is a therapeutic approach that involves exploring and understanding the different “parts” of our personality and how they can influence the decisions we make in life. Jake, Bob, and Gerry explore the transformative applications of parts work in therapy, distinguish the differences between desires and wounds, and discuss the role of love and compassion in the healing journey. For more information check out Gerry’s book Litanies of the Heart.
Episode 97: Divorce (Part 3) w/ Bob’s Mother Peggy
This week, a special guest joins the podcast - Bob’s mother, Peggy. Bob has shared the story of his absent father and the healing that took place over years of prayer. Now, Peggy shares her testimony of tender love, hardship, and forgiveness. She opens up about the beautiful relationship she had with her husband, the pain experienced in the divorce, and her self-sacrifice as she raised her 7 children.
Episode 96: Divorce (Part 2) w/ Nicole Rodriguez
This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Nicole Rodriguez as they continue their series on divorce. Nicole’s parents divorced when she was 11 years old & the trauma she experienced affected her through childhood and into her marriage. In the episode, she shares how her marriage suffered because of these wounds as well as the healing she has received through her relationship with the Lord, her spiritual parents & her husband’s willingness to walk alongside her.
Episode 95: Divorce (Part 1) w/ Joey Pontarelli
This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Joey Pontarelli, the founder and president of the ministry “Restored”. After finding a lack of help after his parents’ divorce, Joey decided to begin ministry with “Restored” to offer practical guidance and support for teens and young adults from broken families. Jake, Bob, and Joey discuss the wounds that come from divorce, their personal experiences, and practical advice on how to respond to this woundedness.
Episode 94: Questions & Answers | Love, Healing & Maturation
Happy New Year! Jake & Bob kick off the year by answering YOUR questions. They field listener submitted questions on topics including parenting, loneliness, anxiety, scrupulosity & maturity.
Episode 93: Healing & Christmas
Merry Christmas from Jake & Bob! This week, they discuss the healing power of Jesus' infancy narrative. They recognize that this time of year can be difficult for many people and offer some solutions. Jake shares some of his triggers & wounds around the Christmas season so Bob leads him through a deep prayer and meditation. It’s a beautiful insight into the work that they both do. We hope you all have a very blessed Christmas.
Episode 92: Adoption (Part 4)
Sr. Miriam James Heidland shares her experience of being adopted. Jake, Bob & Sister have worked together for years and start the conversation off by discussing her impactful ministry, finding identity in Christ & her healing journey. She then shares about finding out she was adopted & the struggles & graces experienced along the way.
Episode 91: Adoption (Part 3)
Chris & Michelle Benzinger share their story of adopting two children from Haiti after a hurricane devastated the country. They share with Jake & Bob how they weren’t planning to adopt until the Lord put it on their heart. They discuss how they navigated integrating these children into their family & how there was joint restoration for everyone involved. Michelle also talks about her experience with Safe & Sound protocol & its role in her healing journey.
Episode 90: Adoption (Part 2)
This may be the most special episode of the podcast yet! Jake & Bob are joined by Bob’s sister, her husband and his 48 year old nephew Brian that Bob just met for the first time this year! They gave up their son for adoption after a teenage pregnancy and the wounds were still there for everybody after over 40 years. Then, by nothing short of a miracle, the family was reconnected! It’s a beautiful story of grace, healing, reconciliation and God’s abundant love.
Episode 89: Adoption (Part 1)
Jake & Bob kick off a new series on adoption. We have all been impacted by adoption, whether through family situations or spiritually since we are all adopted as sons and daughters of God. Jake & Bob tackle heart dynamics of adoption, separation anxiety & ruptures of primary relationships along with defining dissociation & attachment trauma. This series will have something for everyone!
Episode 88: Barriers to Trust
Trust is vitally important to the healing process. Jake & Bob discuss broken trust, healing relationships where trust has been broken and the barriers we put up that prevent us from building trust in our relationships. They share about how trust issues can affect our relationship with God, those closest to us & how we can rebuild that trust.
Episode 87: Immanuel Approach with Dr Karl Lehman
Dr. Karl Lehman joins Jake & Bob to discuss his Immanuel Approach to healing. He shares from his years of training and extensive therapy work on how to use this approach to bring people to deeper healing. Dr. Karl has been a leader in the field for decades and we are overjoyed to share this conversation with you.
Episode 86: What is healing?
We’re back! Jake & Bob return after a summer break tan & ready to dive deep into the topic of what healing really is. They also share insight into the problem of suffering, how to shift mindsets when it seems like healing isn’t coming & a consistent reminder that God is always up to something good.
Episode 85: Emotions (Part 3) Movements of the Heart
This week, Jake and Bob talk about what it means to “process your emotions” and give ways to practically do that. They share that the steps to regulate emotions include awareness, feeling the emotion, naming the emotion, and relationships. They create a scenario where they navigate someone through a lot of intense emotion and bring it back to a wound. Through this scenario, they share the importance of uncovering a wound in order to bring about healing.
Episode 84: Emotions (Part 2) Movements of the Heart
This week, Jake and Bob dive deeper into their series on emotions. They discuss how the Church often seems to deemphasize our emotions and the culture overemphasizes them which can leave us confused about the role emotions play in our lives. They discuss how having emotions is natural and good and how we can best integrate them into a holy lifestyle. They also make the important distinction between an emotion, a wound, and a spirit.
Episode 83: Emotions (Part 1) Movements of the Heart
Bob and Jake introduce a new series on emotions. Bob shares some personal exciting news to kick off the conversation & then he and Jake discuss what emotions are, where they come from & how we regulate them.
Episode 82: Questions & Answers
Jake and Bob answer questions submitted from the audience. They take time to diligently answer questions about spirituality & healing that Jake and Bob are able to answer based on experiences within their extensive careers in psychology. The questions range from what type of media we should be consuming, dealing with intrusive thoughts, working through vows & finding a spiritual director.
Episode 81: The Three Essential Relationships (Part 4: others)
This is the final installment in our series on "Healing Our Primary Relationships." Jake & Bob close this series by discussing how we can love others better. They open up about areas of struggle that can arise in relationships and the various avenues available for coming towards solutions with your spouse, friends & coworkers. Jake and Bob also pull important lessons from the teachings and lives of prominent Catholic role models like St. Mother Teresa and Pope St. John Paul II.
Episode 80: The Three Essential Relationships (Part 3: Myself) Reflections & Comments on Episode 79
Jake and Bob break open the conversation they had in the previous episode with Dr. Peter Malinoski and dive deeper into the key points from that episode. This leads to a discussion where Jake and Bob talk about their own struggles with feelings of rejection and how to process that. The guys also talk about forgiving and loving our past selves, dealing with anxiety & the dangers of self-reliance.
Episode 79: The Three Essential Relationships (Part 2: Myself) with Dr. Peter Malinowski
Jake and Bob bring on fellow podcast host & Catholic psychology leader, Dr. Peter Malinoski. Dr. Malinoski is a clinical psychologist and the president and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. In this episode, Dr. Malinoski talks about the different “parts” of ourselves and the process of getting those parts into a more perfect unity. This process will help us to live the Greatest Commandment more fully because when we love ourselves, we can love our neighbor more fully.